Just after publicizing this post, I found out from my youngest daughter that her dad and his new wife drove her past my new house on Saturday. Yes, the house that Brandon and I put under contract on Thursday of last week. That man acts quickly, doesn’t he?!
You see, as we were meeting with the home builder’s agent on Wednesday, she spoke of where she lived, how long she’d been with the builder etc. and I started to piece together that she worked with my ex husband’s wife (I knew she worked for that builder in another city). Not only did I piece it together, I quickly realized that this woman hosted my ex husband’s wedding open house at her home.
As I was signing over the paperwork, I also clued in that she would be taking my paperwork to my ex’s wife’s office. So I HAD to mention the connection at that point. If I hadn’t, the new wife would see everything about my life on paper and I wanted to be the first to say out loud that I knew she was going to see it.
We told the agent about our connection with her co-worker, “So you must know (insert current wife name here)! She’s married to my ex husband!” I said with a huge smile on my face. She looked as if I smacked her in the face with a 2×4 and slowly it sank in that I was once married to her “adopted daughter’s” (her reference, not mine) new husband. She glowed and told me that she’s heard nothing but “great things” about me and that my ex’s new wife “Really likes you!” (Yeah, whatever…Not more than 3 nights ago my 16 year old son texted me about how his dad and step-mom were “trying to decide how to respond to you about our grades” and changed my ringtone to the Darth Vader march song! Classy!)
His wife texted me later that night telling me I’d love the agent and the neighborhood we chose was a very nice neighborhood. (That was very nice of her.) But the rest of it is not so nice!
This weekend she took my ex husband and my kids to see the house and even told them that she could take them inside the home if our agent couldn’t, because she has a key. Are you kidding me? Can’t these people get their own life and stop STALKING mine? I understand she may have been excited for my kids, but I know my ex husband’s ulterior motives…he wants me to know that HE knows. Just like the way he went inside my 100 year old cottage weeks after I purchased it and toured it without me knowing! (He claims that my son “invited” him and “he gets no joy out of entering my ‘little’ house”.)
It’s a sad reality that this man will never back off. I could care less about his house and what he does. But he lets my 14 year old know “we’re driving by your new house. C’mon, it’ll be fun for you!” Two of my kids hadn’t even seen the house until their dad drove by.
He will always be
stalking researching my life. He will always be lurking about, examining my life. It’s a cold, hard reality I have to face.
What would I say to him if I knew it wouldn’t start drama he feeds off of? Move on. Find happiness. And get a life! But instead I laugh. And hug my husband and thank God every day what’s important is MY life. Not his misery.